Friday, June 10, 2016

5 Ways to Feel Happier Every Day

Happiness comes from within. Only you can make yourself happy. Money, relationships, and other external factors cannot give you happiness, as explained in this Tibetan proverb: “Seeking happiness outside of ourselves is like waiting for sunshine in a cave facing north”. Here are five ways to feel happier every day, regardless of your circumstances.
Think More Positive Thoughts
Positive people are happy people. They make every day of their lives count and they look for opportunities everywhere, even in the midst of difficult situations.
Train yourself to recognize your negative thoughts and turn them into positive ones. It might take some time to retrain your brain to think more positively but the results will be worth it.
Spend More Time Doing Things You Enjoy
Happy people devote time to doing the things they enjoy. Write a list of everything you enjoy doing, such as:
·         Hobbies.
·         Exercise or sports.
·         Outdoor activities.
·         Visiting museums, art galleries and other interesting places.
·         Travel.
·         Spending time with friends and family members (name all the people you like socializing with).
·         Shopping.

Decide how you can spend more time doing at least three things on your list in the next month. Write down what you’ll have to do to achieve this. If, for example, you want to go to dinner with a friend you haven’t seen in a while, you could set a goal of calling or messaging the friend to fix a date.

Write a second list of things you’d like to do but haven’t yet had the opportunity. Aim to do at least one thing on this list in the next month.
Be Grateful for Everything You Have

Being grateful for what you already have in your life automatically makes you feel happier. Whenever you feel down, write a list of at least 10 things you’re grateful for, even if they are only small things, such as a beautiful sunset or a warming cup of coffee.
Before you go to bed each day, write down at least 5 things that you are thankful for in a notebook or journal. These could be good things that happened during the day, things you appreciated seeing or doing, time you enjoyed spending with others, or anything else that comes to mind. After a few days, you’ll feel much happier because you’ll be seeking and appreciating the good things in life throughout the day.
Love Life and Other People
Many people take life far too seriously. Try to approach life with a sense of fun and humor. If you try something and it doesn’t work, try to see the funny side of what happened and move on. View life as a large experiment. Accept the fact that sometimes things will work out and sometimes they won’t, despite your best efforts.
Loving other people in your life can sometimes be difficult. However, feeling anger, resentment and other negative feelings will make you feel unhappy and may have little effect on the other person. Try, therefore, to tolerate others and avoid being critical or judgmental. If there is a person who upsets you often, it could be time to distance yourself from them for the sake of your own mental health.
Follow Your Dreams
What have you always wanted to do? Where do you dream of living? We all have dreams of our ideal life. Although it’s not always easy to follow our dreams, especially if we have a lot of day-to-day responsibilities, writing down our dreams makes them more concrete and provides the basis of an action plan that will help you turn those dreams into reality.
Even if you won’t fulfill your dreams for many years, there are some things you can start doing today that will move you in the right direction. So, after writing down your dreams, write down five goals that will move you toward these dreams. Then, write down five small things that you can do in the next few weeks that will help you to achieve these goals. After doing this, you’ll feel much more positive that you’re following your heart and moving ahead in the direction of your dreams.

It might sound surprising but being happy isn’t easy. It much easier to be unhappy. However, if you take some time each day to think positive thoughts, express gratitude for your life as it is, spend time doing something you enjoy, and laughing at the funny side of life, you’ll start to feel happier. If you also take steps toward fulfilling your dreams, your happiness will increase.

© Roz Andrews 2015  

Tuesday, April 12, 2016

Free Amazon Kindle Self-Help eBook - You Can Improve Your Life and Become Happier - An Action Plan for Busy People

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy even though the circumstances of their lives are difficult while other people are unhappy despite having many good things in their lives?

The answer is that happiness doesn't depend on external factors like money, relationships or successful careers.

Happiness is within the reach of everyone. However, you don't automatically become happier - you have to work at it.

If you've always wanted to improve your life and become happier, now is the time!

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Wednesday, April 6, 2016

What's the Point?

This is a question we've all asked ourselves. What's the point of getting up? What's the point of trying? What's the point of living? and so on...

Although it's a common question, it's also a very destructive one. It implies that there is no point in trying, living, etc, and therefore we should give up. This is very detrimental to our mental health and makes it easy to sink into a depression when we can't be bothered doing anything.

The answer to the question is that there is always a point...You are alive, you have something to give to others, you can create your own fulfilling life.

When such negative questions come into your mind, replace them with positive words, such as:
  • I will try...
  • I will help...
  • I will take one small step forward...
This kind of motivating self-talk will help you to move forward. No matter how small the step, it is important to move forward if you want to improve your life every day.

Thoughts During a Candle Meditation

Whilst doing a candle meditation the other day, I looked at the flame and saw it flickering. It made me think of how we waver when life throws difficulties at us.

However, although the flame moved around a lot, it did not go out. This reminded me that, although we can be thrown around a lot by the challenges we have, they do not extinguish us. We remain alive during those times of difficulty.

After a while, the flame stopped flickering and burned tall without moving. To me, this showed that, once we get through the difficult times, we stand tall and strong again. In actual fact, we're stronger than we were before because we've learned a lot during those times.

The flame of the candle is like the human spirit. It can sometimes be blown about by external events but it is not extinguished by them and ultimately it shows how strong and resilient it is.

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Make Every Day Count - Don't Count the Days

Do you count the days until the weekend? Until payday? I have done that many times in my life but, this year, I have resolved not to do that. Instead, I have decided to make every day count and to write in my journal all the ways in which I made the day count. So far, I have found:

  • I feel more positive during the day as I look for different ways to make the day count (e.g. can I help somone, can I do a task that I've been putting off, etc)
  • Many of the ways in which I make the day count are small things (e.g. having a nice chat with a friend, enjoying a slice of cake and a cup of tea). However, this doesn't mean that they don't count. Anything that helps you to enjoy your life, grow as person or to focus on the positive DOES count.
That's what I've learned so far. Every day provides us with a new opportunity to live life a bit differently, to be more positive, and ultimately to improve our lives. 

Thursday, January 1, 2015

Happy New Year!

A New Year means a new start! No matter what your past has been like, this year can be different. Let go of the past, leave the past behind, and move forward into a new year.

I have just one resolution - to take care of myself better. This doesn't mean being selfish but it does mean placing more of a priority on looking after my physical and mental health so that I can look after other people better.

Wishing everyone all the best for a very happy, healthy and successful 2015! Let's enjoy the ride!!

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

New Year's Eve

A new year is about to start. I'd love it if this coming year was my best year yet. Too many times I've been held back by:

  • fear
  • indecision
  • depression
  • worry
  • insecurity
...and several other negative feelings and thoughts. This blog is an attempt to record my life as I follow my heart. I aim to try to focus on the positive and ignore the negative as far as possible. That's easier said than done!!

I'd also like to help other people to improve their lives every day. What habits do you have that have helped you to improve your life? I'd love to hear from you. Please leave a comment. It would be great if we could learn from each other.